Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamt of being somebody special, somebody big just to find that self-doubt kicks in quite quickly.
- Who hasn’t fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning?
- And how many times have we dreamt of being rich, or successful, or happy in our relationships?
Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – DREAMS. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.
We tell ourselves: “one day I will……..” until we realise that life has passed us by. Not only this but we let our fears and doubt weaver our good intentions and goals.
All of a sudden we realise that instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self- actualization, we get caught up in the routine of living from day-to-day just barely existing.
But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.
The most common problem to setting goals is the word “impossible” because it puts a halt to our decisions, it lets self-doubt kick in and decide for us despite our dreams being perfectly reachable. Many people think they either can’t do it, it’s too hard, it’s too difficult and form the belief that what they want is impossible. Sometimes because they don’t have the skills, the money, the right age etc.
However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.
Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.
On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.
If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.
As a Life Coach I am happy to share with you this simple yet effective exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Divide the goals under three headers: 1) list down things ‘you know you can do’; 2) write the things ‘you might be able to do’, 3) list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’ Then ask yourself what would enable you to move the goals on list 3 to either 2 or 1. What new skills will you need? What beliefs do you need to ditch and what new ones will you need to form to make those goals a reality in your life?
Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’
As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’
As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.
You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards those goals little by little. The purpose is not to let self-doubt win. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.
Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.
On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.
Thomas Edison once said that: “Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration”. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.
You wouldn’t think of going to the gym a few of times and have a totally firm and lean body. The same is true for our mind. It takes dedication, discipline to make our goals OUR REALITY and it is perfectly possible to banish self-doubt from our lives.